If Your Child Resents Learning, Read This
- Iouri Karpelov
- Jun 1, 2023
- 2 min read
Children have a natural desire to learn until you ask them to study. It doesn't make any sense, right? They would rather watch cartoons, play on iPads, draw pictures, build aircraft, run around, and dance. A lot more interesting, isn't it? As a result, we look for ways (sometimes creative) to convince them to sit down behind a desk. If this doesn't work, we may use force in the form of punishment, shouting, and threatening to ban the iPad forever, and the list is long. While the rigorous methods could prove themselves effective, the consequences may tell a different story.
The Negative Effects of Forcing:
Let's get right into them.
Resentment and Resistance: Forcing children to learn can create a negative association with education, making them resistant to engaging in the learning process.
Burnout and Stress: The constant pressure to perform can overwhelm young minds, leading to stress, anxiety, and even burnout. This can suppress their natural curiosity and negatively affect their overall well-being.
Limited Creativity and Exploration: When children are pushed into rigid learning structures, there's less room for creativity and self-expression.
Do It Right:
Obviously, as parents, we want to avoid that. Below is the correct approach.
Follow Their Lead: Pay attention to your child's interests and passions. Encourage them to pursue topics they are genuinely curious about first. This will get them going. Be patient and supportive, and have them tell you when they would do the subjects they enjoy the least. Avoid force at all costs.
Create a Stimulating Environment: Surround your child with books, art supplies, puzzles, and educational toys as early as possible. Make their learning environment engaging, colorful, and inviting. This will allow them to explore and get accustomed to learning. Studying will become the norm.
Emphasize Progress, Not Perfection: Celebrate your child's efforts, progress, and achievements, no matter how small they are, rather than creating high expectations and demanding answers when grades are low. They are low for a reason.
Be a Learning Role Model: Children are observant and often imitate their parents' behavior. Show enthusiasm for learning by engaging in your own hobbies, reading books, and exploring new interests. Your excitement will inspire them.
In short, a healthy dialogue, supportiveness, and patience between a parent and a child is the key to success in school and other areas of life. Build self-confidence in your child, and they will make you proud for years to come.
